We all have them and I’m not talking about Guilt Trips. I’m talking about those friends who pull the “Guilt Trip Trick” to manipulate you into doing what they want. You could even sling them in the same barrel as Psychic Vampires. These people are lovely most of the time but for some reason they have underlying ulterior motives and seem to feed off your energy. The truly sad part about it, is that many of these vampiric people have no idea what they are doing!
You end up telling them your deepest, darkest secrets but despite you giving them your all they suddenly turn on you. Without a clue as to what is wrong, they make you feel so guilty and bad that you do your utmost to patch things up, even when they do things that hurt you, you ignore it .. but hey, woe betide if you EVER happen to do anything that might upset them! The cycle continues and each time they hit you with that curve ball, not only does it take you by surprise it actually hurts you deep emotionally but you always end up forgiving them because they are a ” really nice” person and they “didn’t mean it”.
Why do we do it? Why do we stand for these kinds of friends? I am going through a phase at the moment in which I have become psychically detached for a short while. The presence of Retrograde Mercury has helped me tenfold in actually being able to listen to myself and my own life more – I honestly cannot remember the last time I felt so grounded and I hope you can also feel this energy!
I have heard so many stories over the years of people giving away things they treasure to friends but not knowing why, or deep secrets that were told in confidence that were later made so public the individual actually lost their job, or a friend who needed a place to stay but ended up taking over the whole home for months on end and even leaving all their dirty washing up … or the most common story as I am sure most of us have experienced – lending money and never getting it back! We have to act upon this display of arrogance and lack of respect and cut our ties with these vampiric people. They are no good for our souls nor our well being.
As we go through life we meet up with people for various reasons, some friendships come and go in a flash but you probably needed each other at that time, other friendships last a lifetime… some you might think will last forever just either fizzle out or come to an end for whatever reason.
Don’t be dragged down by others feeding off your emotions. Don’t be manipulated into thinking you are the bad guy and don’t for one second believe the psycho-babble that a lot of these so-called friends do to keep you on their “good” side. A perfect tell tale sign is after you have said your goodbyes, you will most likely get a ton of abuse or a long sob story (both manipulative).
Sometimes it’s simply a part of growth, you have to be able to recognise psychic vampires and learn to let them go, cut them out your life so they can no longer feed off you. It’s all too easy for us to keep things the way they are as it is “comfortable” and “less hassle” or perhaps you are manipulated into feeling sorry for them, or even bribed in some way? Whatever the reason, eventually you must take action to free yourself from these people. If you take no action they will just continue to feed from you and not only can your energy deplete, your health could even suffer.
Taking action can seem hard and sometimes hurtful, however, remember the old saying you can’t make a cake without breaking eggs. Similar thing in clearing yourself of Psychic Vampires, it’s being pro active and doing something for your own highest good – you don’t need to sit there and take it, you don’t need to feel guilty either, these manipulative people are no better than you, so don’t give them any reason to believe they are.
Move onwards and upwards!